Forgive Yourself
Forgive yourself. Not just once. But again, and again, and again. And as many times as it takes to find your peace.
I always thought once I forgave him, what he had done to me and put me through, that I would finally feel at peace. Little did I know the person I needed to forgive the most, was myself. You see, forgiveness really isn’t about the other person. It’s all about you. It’s about your heart and your soul being at peace. It’s about you, healing and moving on. It’s about you not letting the past hold you hostage anymore.
If I could go back and have a talk with my younger self, I would say, I want you to know that you made the choices you did with the feelings and limited experience that you had at the time. You did your best with what you knew. I’m sorry you had to go through the trauma and pain that you did. I’m sorry you made choices that ended up hurting you. And most of all I’m sorry that you believed that you were unworthy and unlovable because someone damaged couldn’t love you right.
All of this is so much easier said than done, but don’t give up. Day after day, sometimes hour after hour, forgive yourself. Forgiveness is letting go of the hope that our past could have been any different. We have to release the need to replay the trauma events over and over again in our mind. It becomes a toxic loop, just dragging you further and further into guilt, depression and anxiety. You will become a hostage to your past by always reviewing and reliving your trauma or mistakes. Don’t shoulda, coulda woulda your situation. Release it, let it go, and move on. When a toxic memory comes up, write it down, then rip it up, set it on fire (in a safe environment, of course), stomp on it, yell at it, whatever you need to do to release it and let it go.
Forgiving yourself and others does not come easy. Be kind and compassionate to yourself. Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice. Forgiving yourself is complicated. You can’t just walk away from yourself. You have to forgive every mistake and deal with every flaw. You have to find a way to love yourself even when you are disgusted at yourself. This workbook on forgiveness is straightforward and easy to follow and walks you through the heart of what forgiveness means and why it can be so hard to do. The Forgiveness Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Uvawzn. I hope it helps you walk through your journey of forgiveness, healing, letting go, and finding the peace you so dearly deserve.
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Peace
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